1 00:00:00,060 --> 00:00:02,227 and I was waiting for somebody to come 2 00:00:02,227 --> 00:00:04,338 and take me under their wings and and 3 00:00:04,338 --> 00:00:06,630 mentor me and I was waiting and I was 4 00:00:06,630 --> 00:00:08,630 waiting , I was waiting and nothing 5 00:00:08,630 --> 00:00:12,550 ever happened . Mhm . 6 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,080 When I was a junior officer , I had 7 00:00:18,090 --> 00:00:20,430 heard about mentoring and the senior 8 00:00:20,430 --> 00:00:22,374 leaders will say yes , mentors are 9 00:00:22,374 --> 00:00:24,597 wonderful , go and get one , you know , 10 00:00:24,597 --> 00:00:26,708 mentors will do this for you and that 11 00:00:26,708 --> 00:00:28,819 for you and I kind of was waiting for 12 00:00:28,819 --> 00:00:28,790 somebody to come and take me under 13 00:00:28,790 --> 00:00:31,200 their wings and and mentor me at the 14 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:33,880 time , I was the one of one woman in 15 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:36,060 the squatter and so I was mostly 16 00:00:36,060 --> 00:00:38,282 excluded from these events . Ultimately 17 00:00:38,282 --> 00:00:40,504 it never happened , I had to go out and 18 00:00:40,504 --> 00:00:42,850 ask questions . Um Sometimes I went 19 00:00:42,860 --> 00:00:44,693 along with the recommendations , 20 00:00:44,693 --> 00:00:46,860 Sometimes I didn't , but um I was able 21 00:00:46,860 --> 00:00:49,400 to make those decisions on my own . I 22 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:52,620 kind of feel like a mentor is um it's 23 00:00:52,620 --> 00:00:54,731 not just one person that you're gonna 24 00:00:54,731 --> 00:00:56,842 follow blindly , right ? You're going 25 00:00:56,842 --> 00:00:58,960 to seek out people whom you trust and 26 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:00,960 you may trust this person from this 27 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,880 capacity or this role , another person 28 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:05,547 maybe based on their a fSc or 29 00:01:05,547 --> 00:01:07,602 experience , another person based on 30 00:01:07,602 --> 00:01:09,713 their life experiences , and you take 31 00:01:09,713 --> 00:01:12,720 all these inputs together , this advice 32 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:15,910 together and you make the best decision 33 00:01:15,910 --> 00:01:18,460 for yourself